...they obviously DON'T work--you're smart enough to have gotten it the FIRST time!
I've tried it all--along with the rest of world! No sainthood for me! My conscious self would say, "I'm not hungry right now." Instantly, what I call my "inner brat" would pitch a fit to beat all fits! The tantrum in my head could only be quieted when given the food 'she' demanded.
I used all the tricks. Small plate, high nutrition, willpower, you name it, I was fully on board. Still, everything related to food was a fight--and not the fun type that got me ejected from the High School cafeteria!
What was going on? I had friends who were 'naturally' thin. They loved food and it loved them back. Sometimes they'd eat a lot; sometimes they'd eat a little. On balance, they'd eat what they wanted, when they wanted and how much they wanted. Why couldn't I?
Simple answer: Our 'primal programs' trump our conscious decisions.
Like a computer, our brains have two working components: the conscious 'screen' and the subconscious 'mother board programs.' My key strokes affect the computer directly and I feel 'in control.'
Am I in control of my computer screen? Sorta! And NOT ON YOUR LIFE! If this machine did not have a myriad of control 'programs' responding to my prompts--well you get it.
Likewise, my subconscious is marvelously set up to keep me running! When it needs fuel (or comfort) it works to make 'me' respond. I attempt to respond using my 'screen' frontal lobe and pick the right food choices for me.
Based on early programing, I may be at ease with food or at war. I can struggle to overcome the 'force' but in the end, the 'program' wins. Yo-yo anybody????
As a helpless infant, my overriding instinct was that "If my needs (for food, water, warmth...) are not met, I will DIE!" This 'primal' instinct served me well as I 'demanded' attention when I became aware of hunger, thirst or other discomforts.
Whether intended or not, delayed response (possibly even ONCE) to my earliest needs permanently set the primal program so that even as an adult I respond to the 'truth' that "After this meal, you will starve." I 'know' the illogic of my drive but I am powerless to maintain a lifelong fight against it. Now I add 'failure' to my databanks.
Naturally thin people have NO primal override. They have grown up mind-body conversations about their hunger.
Dieting fails because the anxiety caused from denying your primal, tantrum-throwing brat is HIGHER than the anxiety caused from overeating. Internal programs win over conscious desires. End of story--or is it?
What if you could remove the inner-brat, primal command and leave yourself free to actually choose? Now you can!
Emotional Freedom Technique uses acupressure to do just that! In less than one hour you can remove the primal program and forever move food from your Enemy list to the top of your Friends list!
Here's what happened for me: My new directive--I can eat whatever I want, whenever I want and as much as I want. There are NO off-limit foods or set limits to my 'wants.' There is no measuring and no 'plan.'
Since I am in awe of the wonder of my body and how it works, I logically wish to give it what it needs to be healthy. This is not a struggle but natural.
As I eat, I check in with the question, "Do I want this?" If the answer is yes, I have it! If not, I leave it. It's AMAZING to have this relationship with food. I am amazed when I 'hear,' "Not now" and feel no inner-brat tantrum. All is quiet in my subconscious so my body can say yes or no at will and I provide exactly what it wants at the time! AMAZING!
Actual experiences:
I stand next to the buffet and do not eat unless I want food. No picking at munchies. Remember! I can if I want to, I just don't want to! AMAZING!
For the first time in my life I leave a bowl of candy bars on the kitchen counter and I only have one when I want one. Surprisingly, it's very seldom! Remember, I never say NO to my desire for anything. I also do not eat without desire! AMAZING!
I leave food uneaten on my plate and feel no anxiety!
Following dinner, I attended a committee meeting where more WONDERFUL food was served. (I had gotten the food email late!) I stood in front of the beautiful spread and gave my mind/body permission to have ANYTHING I wanted. My body was in agreement that the food looked REALLY delicious and if hungry would REALLY have enjoyed it but no, "We're full."
Forgive me for my multiple 'personalities' but this is a conversation among friends! My Mind, my Body and my Ego to which they both talk freely--make 'we!' This freedom is so new (2 months) that I am completely aware of the ongoing grown up conversations!
What an AMAZING space to live in! So peaceful and quiet. Food is my friend. There are times I go to food after a stressful day because nothing comforts like food. Food happily comforts me and I only eat what I need to reduce the anxiety of the day! It's NEVER too much! No guilt, no shame!
To those who learned the protocol at the meeting August 23, please blog about your experiences. If the primal directive was not entirely removed, just repeat the procedure for yourself! Or call me!
We are loved and loving! We are one with food and the joy it brings us!!
Did I mention the word AMAZING??????
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It is working for me. I wasn't really thinking about it but when a friend tried to pressure me into eating fudge, I really was not interested at all. I took some to get her to stop pestering me, but I threw it away since I really didn't want it. That's a first for me!
I can hear the joy in your voice & I'm sorry I missed the meeting. You are amazing! Much Love, Tess
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